The Best 3 Core Values for Success at Work and in Life (2024)

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In our last blog, we talked about three simple things you can do to build a great organizational culture.

The three steps were to:

  1. Identify your core values
  2. Develop an ethos to practice your core values to create your culture
  3. Continually improve your core values, ethos and culture

The point is that if you take each of your core values and transform them into 2-3 specific behaviors that practice that core value, you can intentionally create your organizational culture. You can align and synergize your culture so you get the best performance from your team.

It’s simple. You become what you do, what you practice. If you practice 2-3 behaviors for each core value, your core values will become your culture.

That sounds good, but what core values should you choose? What are the right core values?

One organization I work with has nine core values and 30 corresponding statements.

Another I know has six core values, but very few employees know them, much less intentionally use them.

Are core values supposed to guide team behavior or function as little more than a public relations statement? Few companies transform the values into specific practices. Even fewer measure whether their values are being practiced or not.

So, what are the answers?

Let’s start by understanding the broader context around core values.

We know from earlier blogs that the key to success at work is having high-trust relationships with your team and with your clients. High-trust relationships with your team increases employee engagement and productivity. High-trust relationships with your customers brings more business.

That means that you want to choose core values that build the highest-trust relationships with your team and customers.

It gets better. Remember, you achieve Happiness in your personal life and success in your work life the same way: by developing high-quality, high-trust relationships with others. The same values that will bring you success in your personal life will bring you success in your work life.

If you do it right, you’ll choose a single set of core values that cover success in all aspects of your life.

If you choose a lot of core values, you get the advantage of a long, inclusive list of values. No values get left out.

On the other hand, if you have too many core values, then the values lose strength because there are too many to learn and practice.

Your average person is max’ed out at three core values. Three is the most people can understand and actively apply. To be most effective, limit yourself to three core values.

How do you balance a desire for a long list of values with a limit of three?

The answer is this: Choose three core values that can be easily unpacked into all the other values in your company and in life.

Putting all of this together, you want three core values that build high-trust relationships in your work and personal lives, and can be unpacked into all the other important values.

That brings us to the three core values that are critical for developing great relationships: Wisdom, Performance and Love.

Wisdom: Knowledge + Character

So, what is Wisdom? Wisdom is the combination of knowledge and character. That means that wisdom unpacks into knowledge and character.

More specifically, wisdom is your knowledge of the Truth combined with your ability to live the Truth. It can be as simple as having the knowledge that cigarette smoking is bad for your health combined with the strength of character to avoid smoking.

The more knowledge you develop about the Truth and the more you develop your character practicing that knowledge, the more wisdom you gain. It’s a continuously improving cycle. That’s why wisdom comes through experience.

The more people trust your knowledge about something, the more they will follow you and the better your relationships. The more people trust your character—especially in difficult situations—the more they will follow you and the better your relationships.

The knowledge you need depends on the role you play. If you’re a technician, then you need to have technical knowledge. If you’re a supervisor, you’re going to need to maximize your management knowledge. Management knowledge unpacks into knowledge about how to plan, communicate, handle HR issues, and more.

On the character side, let’s talk a bit about integrity.

Integrity is a very popular virtue, but most people can’t define it or confuse integrity and honesty.

Integrity is different than honesty. Imagine the whole list of virtues as the hull of a boat. Integrity means that there are no leaks in that hull.

When someone has integrity, it means they consistently live all the virtues with no leaks.

If you want to describe great character in one word, that word would be integrity.

Wisdom is a great core value because it naturally unpacks into knowledge and character—two things required to build high-trust relationships and achieve success.

Performance

The value of Performanceis straightforward. You’ve got to perform.

A basketball player must make the shot. The salesperson must close the deal. The CFO must produce the financials. Managers must make their numbers. The tech must be able to fix the problem.

A parent must be able to raise children. A friend must be there for you when you need them.

The more people trust your ability to perform—especially under pressure—the better your relationships, performance and success.

Love as a Core Value

Finally, there is Love.

Think back to your younger days. Was there a teacher or coach or mentor who made a big difference in your life?

What did that person do that made that big difference? Was it teaching you a better way to solve an algebra equation? Was it teaching you to throw a ball better?

Probably not. That special person most likely made a difference in your life because they took the time to show you that they care about you.

Love is, in many ways, the most important value to build high-trust relationships because love itself is a relationship.

Some relationships are grounded in exercising Power over people.

Other relationships are transactional. You pay them. They give you labor in return. You get what you pay for, nothing more.

The best, highest-trust relationships are based in love.

The ancient Greeks had several ways to think about love.

Storge is the affectionate love you have for your family because they are family

Philia is the brotherly-sisterly love you have for close friends. Think Phila-delphia—the City of Brotherly Love.

Eros is love that is the very passionate, almost irrational love you have for another.

Agape love is the deepest kind of love. Agape is when you are willing to fully sacrifice yourself for another. Think soldiers willing to die for each other on the battlefield or a parent willing to die for their child. Agape is the self-sacrificing love that our Creator has for each of us.

If people know that you not only care about them but love them, you’ll get the deepest commitment and develop the highest-trust relationships possible.

Why use the word Love instead of Care?

Care is good, but its not as powerful as love. I think it’s is too easy to take care for granted. Care is convenient. We’re so familiar with care that we don’t need to talk about it. So, we won’t talk about it.

The biggest push-back on using love is that it makes us feel uncomfortable. We’ve been raised to think that love is something that is supposed to be restricted to our private lives—not let into our work life. That’s why love makes us uncomfortable.

Being uncomfortable with the word love means that we have to stop and talk about it. That discussion will make our teams and our people think about love and their relationships with each other.

Love is a deeper relationship. Love is the foundation for the highest-trust relationships. Why settle for care when you can get higher-trust relationships and better performance with love?

Finally, there’s a huge bonus to engaging Wisdom, Performance and Love as your core values.

Not only will these values give you the highest-trust relationships and the highest-performance teams, they will simultaneously build great leaders.

How is that?

Great leaders build high-performance teams by developing the highest-trust relationships with their people. The more people trust your Wisdom (Knowledge and Character), your ability to Perform under pressure, and that you Love them, they more they will follow you.

Whether you want them to follow you or not.

That puts you in the great position of being a high-performance leader in charge of a high-performance team.

Let me know what you think.

I’m Pete Bowen

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The Best 3 Core Values for Success at Work and in Life (2024)

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What are your top 3 core values? ›

Integrity, kindness, honesty, and financial security are typical examples of personal core values. Others often see these values as your character traits. For example, someone who is known for always doing the right thing likely values integrity. Suppose you have a core value of freedom.

What are the top 3 values in life? ›

The top three values that many people worldwide share include family, honesty, and respect. Family is often cited as one of the most important values in life because it provides a sense of belonging and security. Having a loving family to turn to can help bring stability, joy, and comfort.

What are the three most important work values to you? ›

Professional values to adopt in the workplace
  • Strong work ethic. Work ethic is a trait that most employers look for right away in an employee. ...
  • Responsibility. ...
  • Integrity. ...
  • Honesty. ...
  • Reliability. ...
  • Adaptability. ...
  • Accountability. ...
  • Self motivation.
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How to answer what are your core values? ›

Try to narrow down your values to three to five core ones that you can explain clearly and confidently. Avoid choosing values that are too vague, such as "honesty" or "integrity", or too specific, such as "travel" or "money".

What are the 3 main values? ›

These are some of the top values in life that guide our decisions and behaviors, helping us aspire to be our best selves: Accountability. Altruism. Appreciation.

What are the three 3 kinds of values? ›

The Three Types of Value
  • Utility Value. This kind of value is probably the easiest to understand and quantify. ...
  • Status Value. A more subtle, but more powerful type of value is status. ...
  • Sentimental Value. The most intangible, yet powerful form of value is sentimental.
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How do I identify my core values? ›

Defining Your Values
  1. Step 1: Identify the times when you were happiest. ...
  2. Step 2: Identify the times when you were most proud. ...
  3. Step 3: Identify the times when you were most fulfilled and satisfied. ...
  4. Step 4: Determine your top values, based on your experiences of happiness, pride, and fulfillment.

What are three examples of values? ›

Examples of values include honesty, integrity, kindness, generosity, courage, and confidence.

What are the three kinds of work values? ›

The three primary types of work values are extrinsic, intrinsic and lifestyle values, which can include characteristics employers seek like dependability, responsibility and adaptability.

How do I work out my core values? ›

Guide to determine your values
  1. Write down your values. Review the list of examples of core values above and write down every value that resonates with you. ...
  2. Consider the people you most admire. ...
  3. Consider your experiences. ...
  4. Categorize values into related groups.
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What are three personal values that are important to you? ›

Here's a list of values to give you some ideas:
  • Altruism. Altruism is selflessness for the greater good of society. ...
  • Dependability. If you're dependable, you're a person that others can rely on. ...
  • Integrity. ...
  • Generosity. ...
  • Courage. ...
  • Gratitude. ...
  • Well-being. ...
  • Education.

What are my top 5 core values? ›

Five of the most common and widely known values include integrity, accountability, diligence, perseverance, and discipline. These values can be applied virtually anywhere. They are used in the workplace, in relationships, at schools, and within sports teams.

What are your core values as a professional? ›

Be honest, polite, and fair to others. Maintain a positive attitude and demeanor. Be flexible and cooperative. Display passion for the company and your responsibilities.

What is core values and example? ›

Company Core Values are the set of ethics and principles that govern a company's decision making and actions. They also serve as the foundation for the company culture, and the behaviors expected by its workforce. The top factor of employee satisfaction is the culture and values of an organization.

What are top 5 values? ›

Five of the most common and widely known values include integrity, accountability, diligence, perseverance, and discipline. These values can be applied virtually anywhere. They are used in the workplace, in relationships, at schools, and within sports teams.

What are the three types of core values? ›

What Are Core Values? Core values, like integrity, accountability and innovation, are the guiding principles that shape your actions, behaviors and decision-making. They are what define you as an individual, representing your fundamental beliefs and ethics.

What are my own core values? ›

Your values are the beliefs and principles that you believe are important in the way that you live and work. They (should) determine your priorities, and guide your decisions and the way you act towards others. When the things that you do, and the way that you behave, match your values, life is usually good.

How do I list my core values? ›

Follow the steps below to generate a list of your core values :
  1. Write down your values. ...
  2. Consider the people you most admire. ...
  3. Consider your experiences. ...
  4. Categorize values into related groups. ...
  5. Identify the central theme. ...
  6. Choose your top core values.
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